Friday, September 9, 2016

A Quick Thought on Exodus 14:14

                  "The Lord will fight for you, and you have only to be silent.”
Exodus 14:14 

  Have you ever been in a place in your life where you feel like you are stuck, alone, anxious, or wearied from trials in your life? Have you gotten to a point where you feel like you can't even see how you will make it another day? There are times in many Christians lives where God brings trials into our life, sometimes even many at a once. Sometimes these trials become so much that we feel that we can no longer even see to the next day.
  Sometimes I'm laying in bed trying to map out the next few days, months, and years and I get overwhelmed. I'm trying to take too many things at once and figure out how I'm going to deal with them now. When I look at all the things I have to do in my future- leaving home, college, meeting people, a full-time job, even marriage- I wonder how I could ever do it. I feel hopeless; it's too much to face on my own. I feel exhausted; how can I go another day with all these issues? I worry and worry and worry until I'm sick and paralyzed with fear. "What's the point of even going on in life when I have all these hardships to face in front of me?"
 But then I am reminded of why I can face those things. When I feel weak, hopeless, and incapable, the Lord is strong and more than capable. When we cannot go on any longer, the Lord has promised to carry us through. He will be your strength through every hardship you come through, if only you will trust him.
  Stop trying to take your whole life at once. The Bible tells us that today's worries are sufficient for themselves {Matthew 6:34}. Take one day at a time. This world has too many sorrows and hardships for mere men to take; we need someone stronger to fight for us when we can't even move anymore. Jesus is ever-gracious, ever-compassionate. He understands our short-comings as people and He is able to make up for them.

  The Creator of the Universe will seek me out- a broken and dying lamb who is too weak to go on- and carry me back to the fold.

We are not able, but He is. We are weak, but he is mightier than our worst fears.

 Submit your life to Him and let Him fight for you.

Thursday, August 18, 2016

Beauty Tip: How I Got My Hair to Grow Faster

 My obsession with getting my hair to waist-length began about a year ago. For my whole life, my hair had just been able to graze my chest at its very longest. For some reason, no matter how regularly I trimmed it and tried to keep it healthy, it would never grow! It was the most frustrating thing ever. Finally, I became tired of the nonsense; I wanted my hair to be to my butt, and I wanted it now. 
 So, I actually did research or hair growth, and what I found was enlightening. First of all, I noticed some things I was doing wrong:

       1.) I was using a lot of heat on my hair. 
This was really bad. Heat damage is one of the biggest issues when it comes to hair growth problems. Most people don't know how bad simply blow drying your hair after a shower or straightening it can be. If you think about it, it makes a lot of sense. Of course basically burning your delicate strands of hair would be bad for it! Unless you have some kind of protective spray or ointment you apply to your hair beforehand, heat should be avoided at all costs.
        2.) I was washing and conditioning my hair wrong.
This is another issue that many people have no clue that about. To simplify it, shampoo is for the roots of your hair and your scalp only. Conditioner is for the ends and middle of your hair only. When I was washing my hair, I was washing all of it, even the ends. This drys out and damages your hair a lot. Also, remember to use a good brand of shampoo and conditioner to keep things going along. A brand like Organix is great, but is definitely not cheap. Your hair will love you, but your wallet, not so much.
        3.) I was brushing my hair when it was wet.
When your hair is wet, it becomes extremely prone to breakage and stretching. Unless you have some kind of emergency, do not brush wet hair. It really tears it up even if you do not notice it. If you absolutely must brush your hair, go through it extremely carefully, starting at the bottom, and working your way up to avoid creating more knots or worsening already existing ones.

 Once I became conscious of these things, I saw a big improvement in the growth and overall quality of my hair. But, because my hair is so slow growing, I wanted to speed things up. I was impatient. So, I researched and researched and tried all kinds of strange concoctions {including raw eggs and fish oil:o}, but nothing seemed to really do anything drastic. Granted, they all made my hair feel nice, but they didn't seem to be growing it out any faster. Until... I stumbled across something that actually did work.... Drum roll, please!
COCONUT OIL!! I read about the benefits of this stuff in multiple places so I decided to give it a go and I am SO happy that I did. My top-of-the-chest length hair went to just-grazing-my-butt length in the matter of about 6 months {despite the fact that I used it so unfaithfully}.

So, just how did I use the coconut oil to power up my hair, you ask?
Here is the most effective process I've found:

The Inversion Method

1. Warm up around 4 tablespoons oil. You can do more or less, dependent upon the amount of hair your have. To warm it, I usually set a chunk of my coconut oil {if it's solid} in a bowl and heat it up for a few seconds, but you can also set a bowl of it into a bigger bowl of warm water.  Once the oil gets warm to the touch, take it out. You don't want it to be so hot that you'd burn yourself. The point of this process is to increase blood flow to your scalp. 

2. Apply the oil to your scalp. The whole thing should be covered with a thin layer of it. For me, the oil is easier to work in if my hair is at least somewhat damp before this whole process {but not completely wet}. 

3. Comb the oil through the rest of your hair. Again, be gentle so you do not damage your hair in the process. 

4. Massage your scalp for about 4 minutes. Be somewhat vigorous, but still gentle enough that you aren't hurting yourself or your hair. 

5. Throw your hair forward and hold your head upside down for 4 more minutes. This is going to help the blood flow come to your head. You can stand over a sink or your bathtub while doing this or sit on a chair with your head forward or even lie on your bed with your head over the side. Whatever feels comfortable to you is the best option. 

6. Wash the oil out with shampoo or, if your hair is especially dry, keep it in for a few hours or even overnight {do not keep it in overnight too often, because it can clog up your pores instead of helping} before you wash it out. Make sure to get it all out, but to be gentle. 

7. Do not repeat this process again for at least 2 weeks {at first}, preferably 3-4 {after you've done it a few times}. If you use the inversion method too often, your body will become used to it, and it will not be as effective. It can also clog your pores if done too often, which is not helpful either. 

Although it takes a few times to see results, I've found this method to be extremely effective over any other method. 

Good luck in your journey to longer, healthier hair:)


Tuesday, August 16, 2016

Dealing with Stress

Is anyone else feeling it as much as I am right now?
With school about to begin, college choices hanging over my head, and increased work hours, I feel on the verge of having a mental breakdown. Half of me is in denial and the other half is telling me to freak out. And I have been freaking out a little:P
 This time of year is usually a reality check for many young people, especially those that may be entering a new chapter in their life (middle school, high school, college, a new job, you name it!). See, there's these horrible things called responsibilities that we all eventually get to have as we get older. And, if you're like me, they give you a lot of anxiety when concentrated. For me, this past week, it got to the point where I wanted to shut down because of it. My mind ran off with the thought that I wasn't ready to face this chapter of my life and be an adult. I was freaking out because I couldn't fathom how I was going to handle ALL the responsibilities and duties which are coming with the school year ahead.
But, this is where I went wrong. I was sitting there trying to figure out how I could do all this on my own, when I don't have to do this all on my own. Yes, I'm going to be an adult pretty quickly here, and yes, I'm going to have to pick a college and figure out my future, and yes, that is a scary thing. It would be abnormal for someone not to be at least a little apprehensive about it. But, where I went wrong was looking to myself to handle this all, when I should've been looking to God.
 Let's be real, there is no way we can handle all the trials and burdens that come our way in this life on our own. We aren't strong enough for that. What we need to do when we get overwhelmed is to take a step back, breathe, and take some time to see what God says about our situation. The Bible says that we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us {Philippians 4:13}. God put these trials in my life for a reason. He doesn't just throw these things at us and say, "OK, bye, you have fun with that." Everything He does is for a reason and he will guide and direct us on the right path if we just listen.
 So, if you're freaking out right now over this coming school year or other responsibilities you might have{even if it's only a little} , I want you to stop right now, take a deep breath, and talk to God {Romans 12:12-"Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer."}. Tell Him how you are feeling and what you are struggling with. Then, take some uninterrupted quiet time to listen to what He has to say back to you by reading His Word. Humble yourself and ask God for guidance and help. He lived as a man on earth before and dealt with all the emotions and struggles that we have to experience, so He knows how best to help us.
 Also, know that this trial you are struggling with is for a reason {James 1:2-4}. Although that reason may not be clear to you at the moment,be patient to trust Him. Don't lose faith in God's purposes when times get hard; these are the times in which you need that faith the most.

P.S. Excuse my massive lack of posting. I was on a long mission trip and vacation with NO WIFI!! Talk about trials and tribulations! I promise to warn y'all next time I disappear:)


Monday, August 1, 2016

RE-DESIGN {June 2016}

  Hey, Y'all. Wow. How things can change only over the course of a year. 2016 brought a whole new world of changes for me. But, fortunately, these changes were for the better.
Because of theses drastic changes, I am re-designing my entire blog.
  At this point, I'm sure you're probably curious about what changes could cause this and where I've been for the past 8 months. Well, I took a break from HH originally because I was struggling inside spiritually and doing a good bit of self-searching. I do still believe that my intentions were right in having this blog. I just wanted to share my beliefs about modesty with other girls and women. But, I was losing sight of more important spiritual things because my focus came to be much more on how I looked on the outside. I may have denied it, but I was so worried about my outsides fitting to certain standards that I neglected the other parts of my walk with God. It was an illusion to myself and to others who may not have known me intimately. Because I looked "holy" I often assumed I was doing fine and other people may have thought this themselves.
  But, as always, Jesus dealt patiently with me and guided me in the right direction through various trials. I will not go through these in detail, but I will talk briefly about what ultimately set me onto a better mindset about outward modesty.
  During this time in which I was struggling spiritually, I was seeing other "Christians", who also believed strongly in outward holiness, which, to me, always seemed so put together and so perfect... So, well, holy.  For awhile, they were my example. I strived to be as put-together as they seemed. They just seemed to be better Christians than me. So, without realizing it, I became overly focused on fitting all these outward standards that I, in turn, adopted.
  Eventually, God began revealing to me that it was all a show. You can be as perfect as you want on the outside, but without having a truly changed heart and the Holy spirit's work in your life, it all means nothing. Clothing can only polish your outsides, it can do nothing for the filthiness that lies in our hearts if they are not cleansed by Christ.
Although we are called to be modest, I can't stress enough how important it is go first have a changed heart and then have the Holy Spirit guide your convictions in modesty.
  The Bible is not very specific about standards of modesty in women besides the fact that we are called to be feminine and modest. We are also to keep in mind that our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit and we should adorn ourselves purely and appropriately. The beautiful thing is that God leaves this up to our interpretation and the conviction of the Spirit. We should remember that our outward appearance should reflect a changed heart.
  So, to avoid putting the focus too much on the outward man, I want to make Humbly His more about spiritual encouragement and things like this. But, never fear, I still want to capitalize on fashion, so that will remain the focus!
 What I want to leave y'all with today is this verse:
1 Samuel 16:7
"...For man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart."
I can't wait to start over again (and consistently post, too!:D)
P.S. I'm actually planning on starting up an Instagram page for easier posting of outfit ideas, instead of struggling to post them on here! I'll let y'all know when!

Thursday, June 30, 2016

A Quick Thought on Psalm 40:17


         "As for me, I am poor and needy, but the Lord takes thought for me."
|Psalm 40:17|

 I cried when I read this verse. In fact, when I went to read the whole of Psalm 40 during a family devotion, I cried the whole time. If you know me, you'd probably be surprised, since it is not often that something can bring me to be so emotional. 
 When I read this verse, every sin I'd ever committed (or at least the overwhelming consciousness of them) flashed through my head. I was reminded of who I was as a sinner. So filthy and undeserving of any kind of love. All that I have been commanded to do, I daily break. Jesus took my place- my punishment- at the cross, and I say I am grateful,yet I daily spit in his face. 
 I am nothing. I have done nothing to earn Christ's favor. I am poor and needy. Why should He care for me?
 So, I wept for my sins. 
 But, (and oh, what a glorious but!) then I read the rest of the verse. "but the Lord takes thought for me." I read it again. The Lord takes thought for me?? Every day I disobey what God has commanded me. Every day, like a wayward sheep I stray from the path. But, like the good shepherd that he is, he patiently searches me out and carries me back to Himself. So softly, so tenderly he leads me back to the fold. Sometimes I come back kicking and screaming, but still, he gently corrects His child- poor and needy as I am. 
 So, I wept because Jesus takes thought for me.
The Glorious Maker of the entire universe thinks of me and takes time to have a relationship with me. How can it be? 
Praise God.

Wednesday, June 22, 2016

A Letter to the Single Ladies {The Condensed Version}

I always have quite a bit of trouble starting out these blog posts. When it comes down to it, I always want to jump right into my point and can't think of a clever way to get there. So, please, have mercy;)

Dear Single Ladies,
Actually- scratch that. I think that this letter has something in it for young women who are in relationships as well.
 As women, many of us like the idea of being in a relationship {I'll try not to over-generalize here}. We strive to be loved. We want to have someone to spend our future with. This desire is natural; God has put it in our nature to have the desire to be married and to be fruitful and multiply {Genesis 1:28, Ephesians 5:31}. Many young Christian women will spend a good bit of time praying fervently for God to bring them a partner. All this is natural.
 But, there are times when some of us become a little too "over-eager" and want to jump on any potential relationship that comes our way. And, in consequence, we settle. As a young lady myself, I know that each of us {or at least the great majority} have a set of standards; for instance, maybe our future partner's personality, beliefs, relationship with God, or appearance. I know you've heard this a thousand times, but I'm going to tell you again: Don't settle!
 Now, this is not to say that if a great guy comes your way but doesn't have the right color hair or physical appearance you should reject him. What I mean by this, is that if a guy meets all your expectations, but {for instance} is somewhat weak in his relationship with God, this is where things can go wrong. So often, we forget that God's hand is in everything. And by everything, that means relationships, too {Ecclesiastes 9:1}. Sometimes, we pray and pray and pray for seemingly so long and we just don't seem to get the results we want. But, be encouraged by this:

When you ask God for something, He will either give it to you, or bring you something better. 

 If there is someone you have your eye on now or are even already in a relationship with and he does not fit to God's standards {or all yours}, then please consider this. The Bible tells us to be equally yoked with a partner {1 Corinthians 6:14}. Ignoring this command and compromising your standards on a partner can lead to so much heartbreak.
 So, if you have been struggling with singleness or even struggling with compromise in a relationship, I want to encourage you to take a step back and not to come back to the situation until you are ready to follow God's standards and let Him guide the way for you. Because we are finite, we cannot always comprehend what God is doing in our lives. In the present, something {or someone, in this case} may seem so good to us that we can not pass it up. But, if choosing this person means compromising, we must pass it up. The Bible says, "In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight."{Proverbs 3:6} So if you follow God's commands and are content to go where ever he leads you, He will put the right people in your path at the right time.

 Remember, Good things come to those who wait;)


Thursday, June 18, 2015

Easy Tips to Make Sure Your Outfit is Modest!

 Hey Y'all! First things first, I apologize that it's taken me so long to get this post up as well as outfit pictures; I have been overly busy with having just gotten a job, youth group events, Bible studies, and all that good stuff. So, (finally) here is the first post *cheers* . But, don't get your hopes up, 'cuz its just a few more basic things, but I should start getting some more posts up soon as I get into the swing of things;)
 Anyhow, I've been having a lot of trouble thinking of something to write to start the HH's posts off. I guess I tend to over think things and forget that there's nothing wrong with starting out simple. So, as I was making up a new gallon of sweet tea (which is a staple in my house and around here) and trying to listen to a little country music (also a staple) over running water and the fan, I realized that I could just throw out some tips that I've learned over the years that have been helpful for me. And that's what this blog is basically all about- being helpful to girls and woman that want to honor God by being modest.
 So here we go- Here are some tips that I've gathered over the years that I use on a daily basis:

One thing that is kind of an every day basic thing for me is just looking at myself in a full length mirror. I don't mean looking at myself to be like "Dang! Lookin' fineeee!" Haha I don't think I can even think of I time where I've ever thought that- usually I'm like "Agh! The horror!" and have to run back upstairs and start from the beginning or I'm like "Agh! The horror!" and then just shrug and decide to avoid people haha. But, we're talking about when we don't get that privilege. So, Anyways, when I am going out and have to be presentable, I look at myself in the mirror and do a few basic things-

  • Bend over all the way. When I look into the mirror, I shouldn't see my shirt sagging down and showing my chest. Besides the fact that that would be embarrassing to me, I also want to make sure that I'm not causing one of my brothers in the Lord to stumble! Although it would be their sin for having those thoughts, I would never want to be a temptation for someone who may struggle with that.
  • Reach my arms over my head. This time when I look into the mirror, I shouldn't catch my shirt sliding up and showing my stomach/back. This goes right along with what I said in the last tip about causing your brother to stumble. Again, I don't want to make it sound like the only reason we should be modest is because men have no self-control and any time they lust it is our fault; it's not! But, let me put it to you like this- Let's say you were really trying to lose weight. You really struggled with your sugar intake so you were trying to go cold turkey on sugar for a whole two weeks. As if that already wasn't hard enough, your "friend", who was encouraging you to start the diet in the first place and knew that you were on it, was constantly presenting cake, and cookies, and ice cream to you and eating it in your face. So imagine that after so many times of your friend doing this, you finally give in and eat the sugar. Immediately after you've eaten it, your friend starts putting you down for failing on your diet and you've ultimately failed at your point in losing weight. To me, this is kind of what I try to picture our Christian brothers going through. Imagine how impossible it would seem to pass up on something (that you already struggle with) being flaunted in your face. So, knowing how displeasing sin is to God and how hard it is not to partake in it, I want to be careful not to cause my brothers to stumble. Although it would ultimately be their failure, I would not ever want to be the one who assisted Satan in his dirty work against our fellow brothers. Sin is tough and we all have our areas that we struggle in and I see that, so I want to be sure that in whatever I do I am helping my brothers (and sisters) instead of hindering them.
  • Watch any slits in my skirt as I move around. ( if you're wearing a skirt). Sometimes, if there are slits in a skirt to make it more functional, it might show more than you want when you're sitting down or move up further and show much more skin than desired if you bend down, ect. Causing your brother to stumble aside, this is just a pretty practical one. I'm guessing that most (if not, all) woman don't want other people to see their underwear; that's just... well, embarrassing. So, this is one pointer I try never to forget!
  • Just jump around, dance, or demonstrate some kind of activity that I may be participating in that day to make sure no extra skin (chest, midriff, back, too far up your legs) is showing. I try to keep in mind what I'm doing in the day to come so that I can be practical about what I'm wearing, but just in case, I always double check that I'm not showing off anything extra;)
  • Use a tank top! If you  have a favorite shirt that has any of these problems (low neckline, too short) something that can usually fix the problem is an undershirt/cami that either has a higher neckline or that you can pull down to cover your stomach. Just make sure that it isn't see-through;)!
 So, there you have it. There are some basic pointers that I find practical for daily use. I hope you find them as useful as they are to me.  Remember that what matters most is that you are beautiful in you Creator's eyes.

Thanks for reading and comment below if you want to request a topic, have a question, or just find this article helpful! It is so encouraging to hear from readers and it helps to keep me posting!